Time To Face Reality

[su_dropcap style=”flat” size=”4″]I[/su_dropcap]t’s time for us as a species to accept a hard reality: about a third of us have no respect for nor intention of adhering to the vital social contract that hold us together and keep us functioning as a species.
About a third of us – and this is across the board, not just in the US or any particular demographic group, which we’re going to discuss in a minute – are openly and proudly rejecting every lesson of human history about the futility and waste of tribalism and isolation and fear of the “other,” and are enthusiastic to proclaim their refusal to recognize or cooperate with any so-called “social contract.”
I’ve observed many times in the past that in any time and place where there are large enough groups of people to form governments, about a third of the people in question are perfectly willing, or at least easily convinced, to throw the rest of them under any available bus if they think doing so will get them laid, paid, or praised.
Clearly and for good reason on this day, the second of Donald Trump’s second term as US President, there’s a lot of frustration and trepidation and anxiety about what the future will bring, as well as a quite reasonable incredulous outrage at the idea that somehow there are 80-odd million people in this country stupid and evil enough to vote for him.
We need to talk about that, both in terms of the risks it presents to our own integrity and in terms of how to address the emergent and exigent situation that has, as of noon eastern on Janyar 20, 2025, successfully ended American democracy, and is doing the same to democratic countries all over the world.
First I want to talk about this “social contract” thing and where it comes from and what it means.
What is the “Social Contract?”
Formally in philosophy and political science the “Social Contract” is a theory with roots going back to the Greek sophists, and the first real description and labeling of which is usually credited to philosopher Thomas Hobbes (for whom that adorable tiger is allegedly named, incidentally), with Locke, Rousseau, and others following up and developing and applying various high-minded philosophical concepts focusing largely on the broad ideas of individual liberty versus the utilitarian and ethical demands of functioning on a planet which also features other humans (or forms of life at all, for that matter; cf. Bentham “does it suffer?”)
In popular and informal use outside of academia, political science (and that weird subset of “m’lady” guys who think that being a verbose sanctimonious dull-witted boor somehow makes it better), the “social contract” refers to the very broad range of human activities and institutions, formal and informal, written and unwritten, from governments to handshakes, express or implicit, that generally tend to facilitate humanity not boiling down into a perpetual stew of hostile warring tribes.
Clearly, it’s not a cure-all or some binary condition under which, once met, Society Functions Properly. It’s just the label we give to that set of ideas and systems and institutions and philosophies that say we’re generally not going to run around trying to hurt each other because that’s stupid and causes the whole species to evolve and progress more slowly.
Governments and laws are one functional expression of that social contract, mechanisms by which people can be informed of and held to account for respecting the million little things that go into keeping us from collapsing into a frothing mob.
We all agree to drive within the lines. If you don’t agree but insist on doing it your own way, you’ll be sanctioned. If you’re not aware of that clause in the social contract and violate it through ignorance…well first and foremost you’re probably driving without a license but also you might face a less punitive sanction that includes an educational component – go learn to drive and get a license before you try it again on public roads.
So that’s what four years of political science classes taught me about what this “social contract” really is. Now let’s talk about why we need it.
Divide And Conquer

[su_dropcap style=”flat” size=”4″]W[/su_dropcap]hile it’s always important to keep in mind, in a time of trepidation and previously unimaginable decline of ethics resulting in what appears to most to be an almost overnight collapse of the US political system into overt and unambiguous fascist totalitarianism such as we’re currently facing it it is critical to our survival to remember that none of this is about demographics and groups.
It’s important to remember that rough third I talked about in the previous section can’t be identified by any external characteristic. They are rich and poor, black and white, Chinese and Ghanian and Guatemalan and American, they are man and woman and non-binary and trans, they are Christian and Muslim and Jewish and Hindu and Buddhist and Jainist and shiniest and atheist. They are sex workers and PTA moms and deadbeat dads and captains of industry and church leaders and police and average everyday people you probably share a coffee or maybe lunch or some gossip with on slack or maybe they’re a member of your family. Maybe ALL the members of your family are part of that one-third.
It is a time-worn and long-proven effective tool of oppressive and totalitarian power to set the populations they seek to subjugate against one another based on various meaningless attributes usually appealing, at their root, to fear and ignorance.
There’s certainly some reasonable criticism to be directed i our current situation; large identifiable demographic groups contributed significantly and inexplicably to Trump’s victory. Among other relevant observations I’ve had my own words for the Latinos and those of middle-eastern descent who withheld their votes from Harris or voted for Trump on some pretext like failure to support Palestine or the “sin” of women not being compulsory brood mares for any man who cares to force himself on her. because they’re among those groups most certain to be targeted by the Trump administration for oppression soonest and most violently, and I think that’s a thing worth noting for any number of reasons.
So I’m not saying I don’t “get it.” Nor am I trying to shout down the idea of saying “hey wtf were you thinking over here? Seriously?”
If we allow ourselves to fall into the trap of focusing on those demographic numbers and wondering about specific examples of why this group or that group would have to be out of their mind to have done this, we will alienate others like us and begin thinking in precisely the ways we’re trying to resist. That’s why making such divisions happen is so important to the despot or tyrant. The more intramural rancor and hostility and distrust can be sewn among the proletariat, the easier it is for the aristocracy to get away with unimaginable levels of exploitation and malice in the distraction.
Ironically this can only be done by first pushing us together under labels – black, white, gay, straight, Christian, man, woman, Jew, etc. – and then defining an antithesis to that label and pushing others of us under that, and then setting us at each other’s throats like a disturbed child agitating cats to fight each other.
The only defense against that is a diligent ongoing mindfulness about our own thinking, because human brains like patterns and groups and categories and sorting things and labeling them, and we’ll do it off-hand if we’re not paying attention and not even realize it until months later it dawns on us that some basic idea worked its way into something way back when that didn’t belong there and has caused harm to whatever ongoing effort it infected.
We have to be honest with ourselves and we have to be willing to admit when we’ve blown it, because none of us are perfect and we’re all going to screw up sometimes. The important part isn’t that you’re perfect, but that you’re aware of your imperfections and working in good faith to ensure your thinking is clear and hasn’t become infected with some bad idea without you realizing it.
Individual Choices

[su_dropcap style=”flat” size=”4″]W[/su_dropcap]ith all that said, in the end elections still come down to individual human beings making individual human decisions. Every single person who voted for Trump knows what he is and what he’s about and they signed on to it. There is no demographic descriptor that covers all of those people, nor one that guarantees through some other observable trait that they can be easily identified.
It’s about individuals, and that’s really important because you know what? We gotta fix it individually. That means no more debate callouts and back and forth and trying to give benefit of doubt or keep the peace or reach across the aisle. That means we don’t just roll our eyes at ol’ drunk uncle Cletus when he starts screaming racism, we make it quite clear and without any room for further debate that Uncle Cletus is welcome to either stop being an unrepentant monster or he’s welcome to not come around at all, period. Yeah, that’s gonna hurt his feelings and make you feel bad, tough. You have to stop letting these bullies push you into allowing them to be part of your lives when all they do is make you miserable and exploit you and insult you and disregard you on every human level unless they want something.
It means no more relentless relitigation of every conceivable idea just because team dumbass tagged in a new partner. No, I don’t have to rationalize or validate my belief that we shouldn’t be pushing trans kids around just because some adults are sex-obsessed perverts. No, I’m not required to step through my every internal dialogue for the last fifty-four years related in any way to whatever we’re talking about just so you can whip out some snotty condescending gotcha when I make a typo or get a meaningless trivia point wrong.
We’re done doing all that now. That is my individual choice. And yours. If you want to persist in holding values and beliefs that are objectively reprehensible, then I am under no obligation to keep explaining to you why they’re objectively reprehensible.
That also means you might be the odd person out, maybe you’re in a whole family of these ridiculous cretins and somehow you’re the only one who managed to find any human decency or redeeming character trait. This is where it gets hard, because we need a community out there that’s ready to be family to those folks, that’s ready to take the place of the sniveling, cowardly traitors who turned their backs out of ignorance and fear. And that doesn’t just mean a pat on the back and thoughts and prayers, a lot of folks are stuck in these situations because they have nowhere else to go. That means you need to consider being a place for them to go if you have one. Not because they share your hobbies or identity or interests or religion but because they share your humanity.
Individuals did this. Individual human beings making individual human choices to allow or create suffering in others for their own benefit.
THAT is the problem that needs fixing.
The only way it gets fixed is we make it frankly and unambiguously clear to every one of them one by one that their money’s no good here and their custom isn’t welcome, playtime’s over, this is no longer acceptable at any level under any circumstances, and if that’s too big a problem for someone then they are welcome to remove themselves from the society whose contracts they refuse to respect.
Because what they stand for and advocate and support is what has made my life far too often a miserable waste as it has billions of others, it’s disgusting and it’s evil and it’s wrong and I don’t want it around me and no human being should be subject to this treatment and these conditions and this futility of a life, and that’s all the reason I need. Dismissed
As long as they’re going through life supporting and propagating and validating ignorance, hate, servility to power, bigotry, and violence, they have self-selected non-participation in our society. They have chosen to egregiously violate the social contract, to the extent that some of them will haughtily declare they didn’t sign one and millions of others want to renegotiate it.
That means they don’t want to be part of our society, so GTFO. Can’t throw most of ’em out of the country, but I can damn sure throw ’em out of my world, and I can make sure they stay gone.
As long as someone is willing to try or help those who are trying to replace progressive democracy with totalitarianism and oppression and exploitation, they are not welcome in my life, or my social circles, or my church, or my public events. They are shunned. They are subject to precisely the same treatment they wish upon others whose sole offense against them is their existence, because that is the justice that has been long-delayed by the distaste held by decent people for the unavoidable unpleasantries of seeing it applied. If they want to use my bathroom, they have to show me their genitals first so I know which one they need AND I know they’re not lying about it to gain access to me or my family in a vulnerable moment. If they want to eat my food, they have to show me they earned it. I wouldn’t want to impose my socialism on them by just giving it to them, they have to contribute somehow. If they want anything from me, at all, they have to jump through every hoop I can possibly come up with and then I’ll deny them anyway.
Because that’s the world they’re trying to create for us, and I’m not having it.
Or we can talk about them growing up and acting like an adult and facing the facts that the way they think is harmful to others and that is wrong and they need to change it, starting right this minute.
Because anything else is their choice to dishonor that social contract, and if they’re not participating in the contract, they’ve self-selected out of that society.
That was their choice to make, as an individual.
And these are the costs of that choice.
Now is that how I want to be to people? No. But there’s about eighty million of y’all who need to hear me loud and clear, right now:
You’re not leaving me or anyone else with a conscience any choice. You ARE the trolley problem, and we’re the ones who have to decide whether to act or passively allow harm to happen to innocent people including us.
Clock’s ticking. There’s only one right side of any of this. Get on it and mean it.





